Maybe we need to be equally grateful for those persons who love us ‘in spite of our strengths’ as we are for those who love us ‘in spite of our weaknesses’.  If you love me in spite of my strengths it releases me from being responsible for your ego’s stability and sense of self-worth. Consequently, I am not forced to minimize my own worth so that you feel good about you – you can then experience lessons about the authority you’ve been given by God to walk on this earth.  I can be grateful, without guilt, for my own strengths and because you welcomed me to be my best.   We both grow.